Show your True Colors…

top-beauty-colorful-wedding-dresses-by-atelier-aimee-unique-ceremony-day-10I am a strong believer that your wedding should reflect who you are!  I guess I am a bit kooky that way.

The moment that engagement ring is placed on your finger, you will be bombarded with opinions from EVERYONE.  While they all mean well, it can get very overwhelming.

When the day is over, the dust settles, and you sit back and take it all in, will you really be happy with all the decisions – decorations, food, music, color scheme, vows?  Will the pictures (which are the only real tangible thing from that day) reflect you? Will you look back 10 years, 20 years and still be happy with them, or will you regret that they don’t reflect the way YOU pictured it? Are they a true representation of who you were on that day? We all change over time. We grow and evolve, but will you think, “That was so me at that time!”

We live in a world that is constantly changing. What was good and traditional for our grandparents or parents may not be so trendy or “with-it” now, and it may not even close to reflecting you and your personality! Why not start your own trend? Better yet, be yourself and let that show through in all your details.

Let’s start with COLOR! Why do we shy away from color for the bride? Don’t get me wrong, I love a white/cream/ecru dress just as much as the next person, but if that isn’t your “thing” that’s perfectly fine. In fact, it’s AWESOME!

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Designers are gently testing the waters with traditional bridal gowns in gorgeous, soft pastels and florals.  Not quite ready for that? How about a colored slip/crinoline peeking out  during the pictures and the garter toss? 

colored crinolineMake it match your bridal colors or maybe get a little wild with a vivid hot pink, shocking purple, electric blue, luscious red…

In many countries the brides and/or grooms are gloriously colorful. Weddings are joyful, celebratory events! Color evoke emotion and on that day it should radiate your love!

Remember, the wedding day is just the beginning. Color does not take away from the commitment you are making. Marriage is different than your wedding… Your entire life and marriage will be peppered with colorful moments, some dark, some light, some pale, some vivid – how you start your journey is your blank canvas – Make a SPLASH!


Traditional Indian Bride

traditional rattvik sweden

Traditional Rattvik, Sweden


Native Nigerian Couple

Colorful Pakistani

Colorful Pakistani

Native Mexico

Native Mexico

Native Japanese

Traditional Japanese

Jason & Raquel


Weather couldn’t have been more perfect for this mid-October wedding!  Just the day before, we were battling heavy winds during the rehearsal which stripped many of the trees bare of their glorious colors.  Today was calm and warm (by October- Minnesota standards).  The Arch was a labor of love put together by the bride and groom and his family.

The guests were close friends and family and it was a nice relaxed feeling among the well wishers.  We all got to witness the “first look” the groom had of his lovely bride!


This picture captures him wiping a single tear that escaped.  What a warm and wonderful couple and what a loving, fantastic supportive family that surrounds them.  It was an honor and privilege to preside over their union.  I wish them much love and many, many happy years together.


Summer is fading….


This image stirs up feelings of summer drawing to a close.  Shutting down cabins and preparing for what is to come in the next few months.   Now is the perfect time to really explore and get all your planning done for your upcoming nuptuals.

Use the long winter nights to talk and plan…  and not just the wedding day.  Talk about your future, your hopes and dreams.  Talk about where you want to be in 10 years… 25 years… and on your Golden Anniversary.  Write it down!  Start a journal together.  Enjoy looking back on special dates – see how far you have come.  Have you met your goals?  How have your goals changed?


It will make days like the one above go quickly!  Plan a weekend get-away.  If you LOVE the snow, there are endless resorts that you can stay at with all sorts of fun winter activities – skating, snowmobiling, skiing.  Don’t forget to be a couple while you plan your special day!

spring Soon the snow will melt and we will have a spectacular rebirth of the earth!  Any season is the season of LOVE.  Minnesota offers a fantastic backdrop to any ceremony!  From fall leaves to Spring Buds we have it all.

With love and prayers as you plan and plot your very special day and your life together!





Summer Lovin….


Heidi (a co-worker) and Brandon came to me to perform their ceremony about 2 weeks before they tied the knot.  They wanted simple and it was just going to be the 2 of them as they were planning something bigger at a later date.  I sent Heidi a couple of my favorite ceremonies, as I really didn’t want it to be a generic civil ceremony.  I wanted them to look back and be happy with the words and the meaning behind them.  They shared with family and that simple little ceremony for 2 grew to included the immediate family, their children, and a few close friends.  They planned and got everything together in a very, VERY short time!  It was beautiful!  The day was spectacular and her sisters put together the beautiful trellis to marry under.  I love their casual, laid back attitude – They were relaxed and enjoyed their moment.  Thank you Heidi & Brandon!  Much happiness in your future together.


Minnesota… Ahead of the times


While this banner thrilled me beyond words, there was the larger battle brewing to make a union of love and commitment available to all those seeking to be joined in marriage.

Friday June 26, 2015 – History was made!  The Supreme Court ruled it law of the land.

I am excited for all affected.  I strongly believe love has no boundries and we should be free to love whom we choose.  I sincerely hope that as time goes by we will no longer need to label it STRAIGHT or GAY Marriage but simply call it Marriage.

And that is all I have to say about that!

Peace & Love


Winter Wedded Bliss for Whitney & Nick

Photo courtesy of MC Photography

Photo courtesy of MC Photography

Light snow left the backdrop Whitney was hoping for to make the wedding picture “Winter Magical”.  Magical it was!  From the dresses, to the setting, to the special vows – including vows and a ring exchange that Whitney shared with her new step-daughter Khloe.  Much love radiated throughout the room.  Whitney was absolutely exquisite, every detail flawless, from hair & make up to dress.  Her Bridesmaids just as lovely.  I had my moment of tears when I first saw her but when the time came the ceremony went off without a hitch!  The ceremony was highlighted with Khloe having a very good time with the sand (and a few moments we worried her hair or dress would get too close to the votive candle backdrop!)  Music was provided by a young friend of the bride – who perfectly nailed “To Make You Feel My Love ” – Adele’s rendition – during the Family Sand Ceremony.  Sealed with a kiss  – they became one.  The reception was peppered with dancing, toasting, kissing and lots of fun by all who attended.

Thank you for letting me share in your special day and much love and happiness for many, many years to come.


Courtesy of MC Photography



Courtesy of MC Photography


Courtesy of MC Photography


First Wedding Fair (A little late!)

unnamed (2) This is the first attempt at a Bridal Fair Booth.  I thought the artistic idea (Thanks Jennifer) was great.Thanks to the artists who created the final product – the dress – My son David and his friend KK – it turned out perfect! I was very happy with the final outcome.

How would this go?  What does one do when the only product you have is yourself?  Thus the brainstorming with friends one evening with ideas that were beautiful to bazaar!  Lots of laughs but we settled on the TRASH THE DRESS theme as the conversation starter.  The idea came to mind while discussing the photo shoot my daughters – one photographer, one model – did 3 years ago.  The photo’s were amazing and the finished dress was beautiful.  Unfortunately the original dress from the shoot was burned in a bonfire to finish the trashing.  So, we featured just a sampling of photos and went to the goodwill to get a new dress to “trash”.  It did what it was supposed to do, it brought people to my table to inquire about the dress/photo’s.  I was surprised at how many brides are excited about doing this sort of thing after their weddings.  When you really think about it, why not?? Every mother dreams that her daughter will want to walk down the aisle in her dress while every young woman is dreaming of the day she will go with her mom and best friends and get something uniquely HER. So along with discussing what my role COULD be in their wedding day, much discussion was about creating a beautiful piece of “artwork” (the dress and/or photo’s) to display in their homes when the day is over!  Use your wedding colors as a paint pallette and have fun with your wedding party!  Cut a small part out of the train, so that if you have children someday, you can sew a piece of your dress into theirs, then just have fun!  If you buy a body form to put the dress on it would make a great corner art piece! with photos from that day.

I had a wonderful time meeting people and would definitely do more in the future.  I have one experience under my belt and now know what to expect, what to improve and what to leave just as is.  Thank you for those who came out to the show and very sorry it took so long to get this posted.

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Preparing for my first Wedding Fair


I was so excited when I signed up to exhibit at my very first wedding fair. But as the date approached I came to a brutal realization – I have no product to display, only ME! Oh, dear…

What does an officiant do to prepare a booth for a wedding fair?  Well, first you brainstorm with all of your AMAZING friends. Mine provided ideas ranging from helpful booth pointers to absolutely hilarious ideas such as the ‘buy-a-wedding-get-a-baptism-free’ coupon! (ok, they’re amazing AND CRAZY) I decided against the latter, but through all the ideas I was able to get a working model of what I wanted to do.

It was determined that my being personable is what would lead couples to hire me. I have the gift of gab, but I needed a “conversation” piece to draw brides/couples to the booth so I could engage with them. But what? In an event hall teaming with dresses and professional photos and beautiful flowers it would undoubtedly be a challenge for an officiant to stand out! Several ideas were tossed around, but then we remembered a photo shoot my daughters had done a couple years ago entitled ‘Trashing the Dress’. It was a brilliantly fun shoot where one of my daughters posed in a wedding dress, increasingly covered in paint and eventually ending up in a lake! My other (talented photographer) daughter took beautiful photos which no one would be able to resist pausing to comment on, especially if I had the dress! Unfortunately, I discovered that they had burned the dress after the photo shoot… Undaunted, we found another dress at the Goodwill and my son and his friend had a great time turning it into a masterpiece!

Some of the couples I’ve united were willing to share photos from their weddings, allowing prospective couples to see that while I’d be happy to splatter them with paint if they desire, most of the ceremonies I help plan are truly lovely affairs! My booth was quickly coming together.

One crazy dress, some photos and ME. Armed with a stack of brochures I have everything I need to make a splash – or splatter – at my first wedding fair. If you have the opportunity to attend, come on by and say ‘Hello’ – you won’t have any trouble picking me out!

What a Christmas present!


This weekend I was honored to preside over the wedding of Kristina and Kelvin – what a fun, sweet couple!  As if planning a wedding during Christmas festivities wasn’t ambitious enough, the bride also graduated from college this month and is getting ready to join her handsome Marine in California!

Their families were wonderful and supportive, involved in every aspect of the day.  There was lots of laughter and a few tears, but only the good kind.  I watched the “stress” of the day fade to pure joy and love as they faced each other to say their vows.  Their eyes were suddenly filled with excitement for each other, for their future.  That’s why people love weddings – it is watching hope, joy, and optimism all bundled together as couples take that leap of faith and trust each other to be there in the good and the bad. Watching this special, intimate, moment that makes what I do so meaningful.

Thank you Kristina & Kelvin. I wish you many, many happy and healthy years together!