Ceremonies

Here are some sample ceremonies.  They, of course, can be a jumping off point, altered, combined and re-written.

CEREMONY 1

Welcome family, friends and loved one.  We gather here today to celebrate the wedding of (bride & Groom).  You have come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow (Bride & Groom) to start their married life together surrounded by the people dearest and most important to them.

So welcome, again, to all who have traveled from near and far.  (Bride & Groom) thank you for your presence here today, and now ask for your blessing, encouragement, and lifelong support, for their decision to be married.

Marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventure of human relationships.  No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that, through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening; through helping, supporting and believing in each other; through tenderness and laughter; through learning to forgive, learning to appreciate your differences and by learning to make the important things matter… and to let go of the rest.  What this ceremony can do is to witness and affirm the choice you make to stand together as lifemates and partners.

Will you, Groom, take this woman to be your wedded wife?

Groom: I will.

Will you, Bride, take this man to be your wedded husband?

Bride: I will

In the spirit of the importance of strong friendships to a marriage, (Bride & Groom) have asked (X Friends) to read selections about love that especially resonate with them. (optional)

Two people do not live in isolation.  Their love is a source of strength with which they may nourish not only each other but also world around them.  And in turn, we, their community of friends and family, have a responsibility to this couple.  By our steadfast care, respect and love, we can support their marriage (and the new family) they are creating here today.

Will you who are present here today, surround Raquel & Jason in love, offering them the joys of your friendship, and support them in their marriage?

All:  We will

We have come to the point in your ceremony where you are going to say your vows to one another.  Before you do that, I ask you to remember that love, which is rooted in faith, trust and acceptance, will be the foundation of an abiding and deepening relationship.  No other ties are more tender, no other vows more sacred than those you now assume.  If you are able to keep the vows you take here today, not because of any religious or civic law, but out of a desire to love and be loved by another person fully, without limitation, then your life will have joy and the home you establish will be a place in which you both will find the direction of your growth, freedom and your responsibility.

I, (Groom), take you (Bride) to be my wife, my constant friend and partner, and my love.  I will work to create a bond of honesty, respect and trust; one that withstands the tides of time and change, and grows along with us. I vow to honor and respect you for all that you are and will become, taking pride in who we are, both together and separately.  I promise to challenge you, and to accept your challenges.  I will join with you and our community in an ongoing struggle to create a world we all want to live in, where love and friendship will be recognized and celebrated in all their many forms. Our home will be a sanctuary and respite for us and for those whom we cherish.  Above all, I will give you my love freely and unconditionally.  I pledge this to you from the bottom of my heart, for all the days of our lives.

I, (Bride), take you (Groom) to be my Husband, my constant friend and partner, and my love.  I will work to create a bond of honesty, respect and trust; one that withstands the tides of time and change, and grows along with us. I vow to honor and respect you for all that you are and will become, taking pride in who we are, both together and separately. I promise to challenge you, and to accept your challenges.  I will join with you and our community in an ongoing struggle to create a world we all want to live in, where love and friendship will be recognized and celebrated in all their many forms. Our home will be a sanctuary and respite for us and for those whom we cherish.  Above all, I will give you my love freely and unconditionally.  I pledge this to you from the bottom of my heart, for all the days of our lives.

(UNITY CEREMONY CAN BE ADDED HERE)

Please present the rings (hold hand over theirs for blessing) :

Many blessing on these rings, may they always be a constant reminder of the promises you are making to each other.

(To Groom)

Please Repeat: I give this ring as a daily reminder of my love for you for now and always.

(To Bride)

Please Repeat: I give this ring as a daily reminder of my love for you for now and always.

By the power of your love and commitment, and power vested in me, by the state of Minnesota, What God has joined together, let no one part.

I now pronounce you husband and wife!  You may kiss each other.

It is with great joy I present to you for the first time, Mr. & Mrs. ________.

 

CEREMONY 2

(This has been the most requested)

Welcome Everyone!  What a Great day!  Today is the day that (Bride) & (Groom) have work very hard to make “perfect”.  The dress, the flowers, music, the food, decorations, and all the little details that go into making this DAY perfect.  However, I have often said that people spent way too much time (and money) planning a Wedding DAY, forgetting to plan for the whole MARRIAGE that follows.  While we want a “Perfect Day” we need to spend more time and reflection focusing on having an imperfectly – perfect marriage.

Today (Bride) & (Groom), you will make your vows to each other.  It is your intention to honor those vows and each other.  You cannot do this alone.  There are a couple things that you will need to remember to be successful in the commitment you are making to each other today.

FIRST is PATIENCE…Patience is the attribute that will keep you sane!  It will help keep perspective of what is real and important in each other and in the life you are making together.  Keep this in mind as you weave your lives, jobs, households, finances and possessions together.

SECOND is GRACE… Grace is about letting go of what we expect our spouse to be and do… and accepting who they are.  (Bride), there will be times you will wish that (Groom) would just read your mind,  and figure it out, without you telling him… and (Groom) , you will wonder why (Bride) is still “stewing” over the conflict that you have long forgotten because it was so “last night”.  You want the other to be the person you envision.  The reality is, this probably won’t happen.  Ask anyone who has been married for a while, myself included, after 20 years, I still wish my spouse would “just get it”…but we don’t get stuck in that place.  THAT is Grace – forgiving the other for not always meeting these unrealistic expectations.

THIRD you need an understanding of COMMITMENT.  Commitment seems to be especially difficult today with our cultural emphasis on personal happiness.  Putting the needs of others before our own – most of the time – seems like an antiquated concept.  However, this is how marriage and relationships are designed to be.  It helps you see beyond the ups and downs and invest in the BIG PICTURE.  You can encourage the long term and enhance the dedication by spending time dreaming about your future together.  Making all efforts to understand and work toward that ideal is the way to a successful and fulfilling relationship.

FOURTH, you need to keep DATING each other… Never stop! Right now, as you establish your household together, working and having little extra time.  You need to consciously set aside time for each other and the relationship. This ceremony is not the end to making that a priority. Your time needs to be more important than the landscaping, picking out furniture or paint colors. You are working hard to have “things”, but the relationship cannot nurture itself. You must make each other the Priority. Take time to love your relationship, yourself and each other… date each other now and forever!

FIFTH, be COURTEOUS AND LOVING to each other.  Treat each other with kindness and respect at all times.  Always put your best out there for each other. Speak to others about your spouse in the same manner. This does not mean “stuffing your feelings” about things that bug you, it is normal and healthy to vent or disagree every so often.  But remember this, nothing erodes intimacy more than hurtful sarcasm and publicly berating another person.  What is seen as humor to one can be a sharp knife in the heart of the other.  Be gentle and kind with your words.  If you are truly marrying your best friend, continue treating each other as such. Nurture each other and humble yourself for each other.

FINALLY… A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR goes a long way!  When you can laugh at yourself and with each, other you have it made. Laughing at your own “quirks” can ease some of the difficulties of living with another person day after day.  When you are having a particularly difficult day, thing back on some funny even that has occurred in your relationship and you will find it can help bring you back to a good place and not get stuck in the difficulty.

Don’t think that what you feel today, is the end all be all.  When the strong emotions that you identify as “LOVE” today fade, and they will from time to time, allow them to change and grow. A great man – my Grandfather said that when he married my Grandmother he thought he knew what love was… when asked again on their 50th Wedding Anniversary he realized he was finally beginning to understand what love REALLY was… and that marriage lasted 65 years – maybe they “got it”!

Marriage by design, is a venue to encourage each other, grow with each other, and enjoy what each of you brings to it. Celebrate every day by honoring your vows and giving thanks to the power that brought you together.

We are now ready for the vows: (can substitute own)

(Groom) repeat after me:

I, (Groom), take you, (Bride) to be my wife, friend and life partner.

I will work to create a bond of honesty, respect and trust

I vow to honor and respect you, for all that you are and will become.

Taking pride in who we are together and separately.

I promise to challenge you and accept your challenges.

Our home will be a sanctuary for us and those we cherish.

Above all, I give my love freely and unconditionally.

I promise this to you from my heart, for all the days of our lives.

 

(Bride) repeat after me:

I, (Bride), take you, (Groom) to be my wife, friend and life partner.

I will work to create a bond of honesty, respect and trust

I vow to honor and respect you, for all that you are and will become.

Taking pride in who we are together and separately.

I promise to challenge you and accept your challenges.

Our home will be a sanctuary for us and those we cherish.

Above all, I give my love freely and unconditionally.

I promise this to you from my heart, for all the days of our lives.

(Sand/unity candle/music – Good time for that)

(Bride) & (Groom) have chosen rings to symbolize their love; By sharing these rings they are sharing a covenant promise – Gracious God, Remind (Bride) & (Groom) of your encircling love and unending faithfulness that in their life together they may know joy and peace in your love and in one another.

(Groom) repeat after me: (Bride), I give you this ring as a sign of my eternal love and faithfulness.

(Bride) repeat after me: (Groom), I give you this ring as a sign of my eternal love and faithfulness.

By sharing these rings and exchanging these vows, you have made a commitment to yourself and to each other.  Love each other, rejoice in each other, and rejoice in the power that blesses this union.

By the promises made before us this day, (Bride) & (Groom) have united themselves as husband and wife.  Whom God has joined together, let no one separate.

So it is with great pleasure, by the power vested in me by the state of Minnesota, I present to you Mr. & Mrs__________.  You may now kiss your bride.

 

CEREMONY 3

(For a Blended Family)

Welcome family and loved ones.  We gather here today to celebrate the wedding of (Bride) & (Groom).  You have come here to share in this formal commitment they make to one another, to offer your love and support to this union, and to allow (Bride) & (Groom) to start their married life together surrounded by the people most important to them.

(Bride) & (Groom) want to thank you for your presence here today, and ask for you blessing, encouragement and lifelong support, for their decision to be married.

Marriage is perhaps the greatest and most challenging adventures of human relationships.  No ceremony can create your marriage; only you can do that – through love and patience; through dedication and perseverance; through talking and listening, helping and supporting and believing in each other;  through tenderness and laughter; through learning to forgive; learning to appreciate your differences, and by learning to make the important things matter, and to let go of the rest.  What this ceremony can do is to witness and affirm the choice you make to stand together as life mates and partners.

Will you, (Groom), take (Bride) to be your wedded wife?

(Groom):   I will

Will you, (Bride), take (Groom) to be your wedded husband?

(Bride): I will

Two people do not live in isolation.  Their love is a source of strength with which they may nourish not only each other but also the world around them.  And… in turn, we, their community of friends and family, have a responsibility to this couple.  By our steadfast care, respect, and love, we can support their marriage and the new family they are creating today.

(Children) today not only are (Bride) & (Groom) making a commitment to each other, they are making one to you as well.  Your family is drawn together by the love your parents have for each other and will be held together by devotion.  Today you will each gain a confidant, a friend.  Another who is devoted to you, another who will encourage your hopes and dreams, another who will calm your fears and be there for you every step of the way as you journey forward in life.  Becoming a blended family isn’t always easy but your parents are just as devoted to you as individuals, and your new family unit, as they are to each other.

(Children) will you support your parents as they enter this commitment?

Kids:  We will

Treasured family and friends will you offer your love, support and encouragement to (Bride) & (Groom) as they begin their married life together?

All:  We will

I ask that your home be a place for happiness for all who enter it and a place where the old and young are renewed in each others’ company, a place for growing, a place for music and celebration, and a place for laughter.  When life seems to be too much or you just had a rough day, may your home always be a place of refuge where every one of you can find the comfort of always knowing that you will be accepted and loved unconditionally.

We have come to the point where you will say your vows to each other.  Before I do that, I ask you to remember that love – which is rooted in faith, trust and acceptance – will be the foundation of an abiding and deepening relationship.  No other ties are more loving, no other vows are more sacred, than those you now assume.  If you are able to keep the vows you take here today, not because of any religious or civic law, but out of a desire to love and be loved by one another, without limitation, then your lives will have joy, and the home you establish will be a place where your hearts reside.

(Groom), repeat after me:

(Bride), from this day forward I promise you these things.

I will laugh with you in times of joy and promise to be there when you need me.

I will share in your dreams and help you reach your goals.

I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement.

I give you my hand and my heart from this day forward.

You are my best friend and I will love you always.

(Bride), repeat after me:

(Groom), from this day forward I promise you these things.

I will laugh with you in times of joy and promise to be there when you need me.

I will share in your dreams and help you reach your goals.

I will listen to you with compassion and understanding, and speak to you with encouragement.

I give you my hand and my heart from this day forward.

You are my best friend and I will love you always.

 

May I have the rings please?

(Groom), please repeat after me:

(Bride), I give you this ring, as a constant reminder of my unending love for you.

(Bride), please repeat after me:

(Groom), I give you this ring, as a constant reminder of my unending love for you.

You have said your vows and exchanged rings sealing your love.

Would you please hold hands…  May these hands always be held by one another.  May they have strength to hold on through the storms of stress, and the darkness of disillusionment.  May they be tender and gentle as they nurture each other in love.  May these hands build a marriage founded in grace, rich in caring, and reaching together to bring forth the very best in both of you.

By the power of your love and commitment, and the power vested in me, by the state of ______, What God has joined together let no one part.  I pronounce you, husband, wife & FAMILY.

(Groom), you may kiss your bride!

I proudly present to you for the first time as husband and wife,

(Bride) & (Groom)

 

CEREMONY 4

(Religious Ceremony 1)

Dear friends, we have come together in the presence of God to witness the marriage of (Bride & Groom), to surround them with our good wishes and prayers, and to share in their joy! Let us enter into this celebration confident that through the Holy Spirit, Christ is present with us now.  We pray that this couple may fulfill God’s purpose for the whole of their lives.

Let us pray:

O God, we gather today to celebrate your gift of love and its presence among us.  We rejoice that these two people have chosen to commit themselves to a live of loving faithfulness to one another.  We praise you, O God, for the ways you have touched our lives with a variety of loving relationships.  We give thanks that we have experienced your love through the care and affection of and from other people.  At the same time, we remember and confess to you, O God, that we often have failed to be loving, that we often have taken for granted the people whom we care for the most. We selfishly neglect and strain the bonds that unite us with others. Forgive us, O God.  Renew within us and affectionate spirit. Enrich our lives with the gracious gift of your love so that we may share the same love with each other. May our participation in this celebration and commitment give us a new joy and responsiveness to the relationships we cherish. Through Jesus Christ we pray. Amen.

Reading(s)

POEMS, PRAYERS SCRIPTURE (Ex Romans 12:9-13, 1John4: 11-13, Matthew 22: 37-40)

Before God and this congregation, I ask you to affirm your willingness to enter this covenant of marriage.  To share all the joys and sorrows of this relationship, whatever the future may hold. (Bride & Groom), will you love each other faithfully as husband and wife?

Couple: We will

(To gathered loved ones):  Will you, as family and friends, of (Bride & Groom) offer your prayerful blessings and loving support to this marriage?  If so, please say “We will”.

Congregation: We will

Let us pray. God of our mothers and fathers, hear our pledge encouraging and supporting this union of (Bride & Groom). Bless us as we offer our prayerful and loving support to their marriage.  Bless them as they pledge their lives to each other.  With faith in you, and in each other, may this couple always bear witness to the reality of love to which we witness this day.  May their love continue to grow, and may it be a true reflection of yoru love for all of us; through Jesus Christ.  Amen

**Traditional or personal vows at this point.

Traditional

Groom do you take Bride to be your wedded wife, to live together in marriage?  Do you promise to love her, comfort her, honor and keep her, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and forsaking all others, be faithfully only unto her, for as long as you both shall live?

I do.

Bride do you take Groom to be your wedded husband, to live together in marriage?  Do you promise to love him, comfort him, honor and keep him, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, and forsaking all others, be faithfully only unto him, for as long as you both shall live?

I do

UNITY CERMONY with music (sand, candle, wine box, glass)

Blessing of the rings: Gracious God, remind (Bride & Groom) of your encircling love and unending faithfulness that in their life together they may know joy and peace in your love and in one another.

(Groom) repeat after me: (Bride), I give you this ring as a sign of my eternal love and faithfulness.

(Bride) repeat after me: (Groom), I give you this ring as a sign of my eternal love and faithfulness.

By the promises made before us this day, (Bride & Groom) have united themselves as husband and wife.  Whom God has joined together, let no one separate.

It is with great pleasure the, by the power vested in me by the state of Minnesota, I present to you (how the couple want to be announced)… You may now kiss your bride.

 

CEREMONY 5

(Religious ceremony 2)

~ Introductory Music ~

Dearly beloved, we are gathered here on this beautiful day to witness the union of (Bride & Groom) in holy matrimony. This is a day of great celebration and reverence, on which we come together before God to recognize and commemorate the sacred love and dedication shared between these two people. It is wonderful to have family and friends here to join us today. The bride and groom would like to thank their guests for being here, and would like you to know that each of you were invited here on this day because you have played an integral part in their intertwining lives.

As the Bible reminds us in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

In the time that (Bride & Groom) have spent together, they’ve built the sturdy foundation for a lifelong relationship. After a great deal of thoughtful consideration, they have decided to bind themselves to one another for the rest of their lives.

May you all remember and cherish this sacred ceremony, for on this day, with love, we will forever bind (Bride & Groom) together.

Who gives (presents) this bride today?

(Whomever is presenting the bride) I do.

(Addressing the guests) Marriage is a sacred ceremony. Today we observe the union of these two people with the respect the occasion warrants. What we honor with reverence, however, we also celebrate with great joy! For married life – a shared life – is a tremendous blessing. Now, as (Bride & Groom) embark on this journey together, they will be able to nurture a love that makes each of them better versions of themselves. Marriage is, indeed, the perfect garden from which to sow and harvest personal growth.

(Addressing the couple) (Bride & Groom), learn to work together, to laugh together, and to love together. Don’t get caught up in worldly things that will draw you apart. Instead, focus on your shared devotion and turn inward. As your relationship strengthens you will find that you come to share a remarkable love; a love that is both abundantly given and freely accepted.

The joy you’ll find as you pursue your shared lives will fuel you to face head-on the challenges you’ll encounter on this Earth. On your journeys together, keep your spouse in the space of highest priority in your heart. The love you share must be guarded and cherished, it is your most valuable treasure.

Under the eyes of God, I solemnly consecrate these matrimonial proceedings and the sacred covenant you shall both enter into on this day.

Marriage is an ancient rite. As you enter into this union, you are choosing to take part in a historical human establishment and are pledging your commitment before the witnesses present here today to enter into that tradition with honor.

As Jesus said: “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,” he also taught that, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”

(Bride & Groom)  the sacred vows that you make to one another today present you with the opportunity to express your love in your own words. I would at this time invite you to publically declare these vows:

(Groom), you may now repeat after me your promise to (Bride).

I, (Groom), take you, (bride), for my lawfully wedded wife, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life, until death do us part. This is my solemn vow.

(Bride), you may now repeat your promise to (Groom).

I, (Bride), take you, (Groom), for my lawfully wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer. I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life, until death do us part. This is my solemn vow.

(Bride & Groom) please face one another and join hands.

Under the eyes of God, (Bride) do you take (Groom) to be your lawfully wedded husband? By making this commitment, you are joining in the sacred covenant of marriage. Do you promise to honor him in love, to be sensitive to his needs, to comfort him in difficulty, and to put your full and complete trust in him, so long as you both shall live?

BRIDE: I do.

Under the eyes of God, (Groom), do you take (Bride) to be your lawfully wedded wife? By making this commitment, you are joining in the covenant of marriage. Do you promise to honor her in love, to be sensitive to her needs, to comfort her in difficulty, and to put your full and complete trust in her, so long as you both shall live?

GROOM: I do.

(Bride & Groom), while the words you have spoken have sealed your union, it is the lighting of the unity candle that truly symbolizes the melding of your two souls.

UNITY CEREMONY – wording would be changed for Sand/Glass/Wine Box – below is sample for Unity Candle.

(At this time Bride & Groom should each receive a pre-lit taper candle.)

You hold in your hands a single flame. Allow this flame to represent your life: every thought that’s ever crossed your mind, and every word that’s ever crossed your lips; all of your victories, and all of your failures; all of your joys, and all of your sorrows. And now, as you tilt these candles forward to light the center candle. Watch as the two flames instantly form one. So too, today, have your two spirits come together to form one singular entity. Just as your combined flame illuminates the space around it, let your magnificent union radiate with love and light your path as you move forward through life.

To commemorate this union, you may now exchange rings. The circle formed by each ring symbolizes your eternal love and commitment to one another. Let these rings remind you always of that love, and of the promises you have made here on this day.

Will each of you please repeat after me as you place the ring on your loved ones hand?

Bride: I, (bride), give you Groom this ring as a symbol of my love and commitment. With this ring, I thee wed.

Groom: I, Groom, give you Bride this ring as a symbol of my love and commitment. With this ring, I thee wed.

By the power vested in me, by the Church and by the state of Minnesota, I pronounce you(Bride & Groom as wife and husband, lawfully wedded before God.

Groom, you may now kiss the bride, forever sealing your union.

Ladies and gentlemen, it is my pleasure to present to you (Couple intro as desired)

 

ALTERNATIVE CEREMONIES

(Handfasting)

Friends, family, loved ones.  We are here today to witness these two people,

__________ & _________, join hands and be bound together by their love, now and forever.  Before we begin the ceremony, we will turn this place into sacred ground.  As I cast the circle, please take a moment to visualize loving, positive energy for ___&___.

(cast circle either out loud or in silence)

The circle has been cast, and this is now a sacred space.  We will now take a moment to consecrate the rings.

(consecrate with the 4 elements or by other method called for by the couples tradition)

North-Earth, East-Air, South-Fire, West-Water

*The circle itself is an infinite thing.  It is magical and never-ending.  Never changing and yet always adaptable, a ring with no beginning and no conclusion.  Like the circle, true love itself is infinite.  It goes on, knowing no boundaries or restrictions.  It flourishes and blooms in the light and in the dark, laying down no ultimatums, making no demands at all.  Love, in its infinite form, is something that cannot be forced.  It cannot be taken away.  It is a gift we give to ourselves, and an honor we give to others from the bottom of our hearts and souls.  When two people come together and give one another this gift, the most sacred gift of all, it is certain the universe is sitting back and smiling upon us, laughing and showering us with every possible blessing.

Today is a day to celebrate the love of ____ & ____.  They are two people who are the halves of a whole.  Two souls, coming together to form one single being; two hearts beating in a single rhythm.  They are together as one, so they will now light a candle of unity, to show the universe that they indeed are one light burning brightly in the darkness.

(light unity candle)

Today we ask that the infinite light of the divine shine upon this union.  In that spirit, I  offer a blessing to the ceremony.

Blessed be this marriage with the gifts from the East(AIR) – new beginnings that come each day with the rising sun, communication of the heart, mind, body and soul.

Blessed be this marriage with the gifts of the South(FIRE) – the light of the heart, the heat of passion, and the warmth of a loving home.

Blessed be this marriage with the gifts of the West(Water) – the rushing excitement of a raging river, the soft and pure cleansing of a rainstorm, and a commitment as deep as the ocean itself.

Blessed be this marriage with the gifts of the North(Earth) – a solid foundation on which to build your lives, abundance and growth of your home, and the stability to be found by holding one another at the end of the day.

______ & _____, these four simple blessings will help you on your journey that begins today.  However, they are only tools.  They are tools which you must use together to create the light, the strength, the infinite energy now and forever of a love you both so richly deserve.

Now, I ask you to look into each others’ eyes and hearts.

(Groom)__, please place the ring on __(Bride’s)___ finger.  Do you promise to show (bride) your honor and fidelity, to share her laughter and joy, to support and stand by her in times of difficulty, to dream and hope together with her, and to spend each day loving her more than the day before?   GROOMS AFFIRMATIVE RESPONSE

(Bride)__, please place the ring on __(Groom’s)__finger.  Do you promise to show (groom) your honor and fidelity, to share his laughter and joy, to support and stand by him in times of difficulty, to dream and hope together with him, and to spend each day loving him more than the day before?   BRIDES AFFIRMATIVE RESPONSE

(AT THIS TIME IF PERSONAL VOWS HAVE BEEN WRITTEN, THIS IS WHERE THEY WOULD BE EXCHANGED- or MORE TRADITIONAL CAN BE ADDED)

The Vows of love have been spoken.  I ask you now to cross your hands over each other and take one another’s hands.

(Wrap the “handfasting cord/ribbon around the bride & grooms wrists, binding them together loosely and tying a knot)

(bride), (groom), this cord (ribbon) symbolizes so much.  It is your life, your love and the eternal connection that the two of you have found with one another.  The ties of this handfasting are not formed by this cord/ribbon, or even by the knot connecting them.  They are formed instead by your vows, by your pledge, your souls, and your two hearts, now bound together as one.

One last bond, (groom), will you please kiss (bride).

(as the couple seals the vow with a kiss, unwrap the cord/ribbon without untying knot)

Now, ____ & ____, please turn and face your friends and family who love and support you.  Ladies and Gentlemen, I present to you _____ & _____ (Last name)

And now we will dismiss this sacred space.  As I close the circle, please send all your loving energy towards our newly Married/handfast couple, so they may begin their life together with all your blessings and warm wishes.

(go around the circle and dismiss the quarters/elements)

The circle has been dismissed.  Friends, please take a moment to congratulate ___ & ___.

 

 

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